About Me

“If we start being honest about our pain, our anger, and our shortcomings instead of pretending they don’t exist, then maybe we’ll leave the world a better place than we found it.” – Russell Wilson

I am a Chinese American, male therapist with a purpose of speaking up for the authentic experience of genuine human relationships. Having bore witness to the many joys and suffering of the human experience, I have found relationships to be the string that holds our stories together. Some relationships are the source of our pain that twists us out of shape, while others are the source of our greatest fulfillment. Most contain elements of both. I find them all meaningful, when we have the courage to and curiosity to look into them. 

Like many others, I started my journey in the field before I knew it had begun. I was involved in a student-run clinic and supported research in Mindfulness and Adult Attachment in my undergrad. When I graduated, I became a counselor for troubled youth which extended to working with hard-run parents. When I reached the limit of my knowledge, I pursued training to be a therapist. Since, I have continued to build upon this foundation as a therapist at RAMS CYF, a Behavioral Health Program Coordinator at Aspire Public Schools, and now in private practice.

My cultural background and language allowed me more opportunities to work with Asian Americans, particularly of Chinese descent, many of whom were immigrants or children of immigrants. Given the legacy of stigma within the culture, and virtue of self-reliance within this community, much of their suffering remained silent. Only until recently where more light has been shed on the hardship of others who are like me. I consider it an honor and privilege to have this be a part of my clinical focus. 

I am fascinated with the nuance and gray area that is one’s relationship with themself. These areas are often filled with ambiguity and uncertainty, and many choose to avoid it out of the fear of getting lost in the vast gray sea. Instead, they strive for earnest but stringent control, or relinquish themselves in escapism. Only to find themselves bouncing endlessly back and forth between anxiety and chaos, simultaneously restless and stagnant.

Yet, it is in the open space where balance is found. If we allow ourselves to lay afloat in the current of life, we find that our intuition will guide us to an even flow. In the therapy room, we learn to let go of the things that are simultaneously propping us up and holding us back.

We learn to listen to our intuition and allow it to guide us, while choosing freely to avoid being subjected to our impulses.